There are many painful existential realities that we have to come to terms with throughout our lives. Perhaps none is more painful than the reality of imperfection. Like it or not, the world is imperfect. Like it or not, our family and friends, and our relationships with them, are imperfect. And like it or […]
Here are some wonderful podcasts on mindfulness:
Gil Fronsdal (all episodes)
Waking Up Podcast: Is Buddhism True? (Robert Wright and Sam Harris)
Big Mind Meditation (Joseph Goldstein)
The Sacred Pause (Tara Brach)
Joseph Goldstein and Robert Wright: Interview (2003)
Joseph Goldstein and Robert Wright: Interview (2014)
Sharon Salzberg and Robert Wright: Interview (2003)
Here is a list of recommendations for books on mindfulness. (Note: Most of them come from the Buddhist tradition.)
Tara Brach: Radical Acceptance
Pema Chodron: Comfortable With Uncertainty
Pema Chodron: Start Where You Are
Pema Chordon: The Places That Scare You
Pema Chodron: When Things Fall Apart
Thich Nhat Hanh: Peace is Every Step
Mindfulness is the cognitive ability to be aware of what is happening in the here-and-now without judgment or attachment to any particular outcome (Nopoli, Krech, Holley, 2005). I prefer to translate it as “kind awareness” or “compassionate understanding.” It is a way of dropping our critical, fault-finding tendencies and relating to our experiences with […]
The child that you have is the child that you will send off to college.
I often work with parents who share in their child’s fantasy that they will turn into a completely different person when they are dropped off at college. Their child will mature miraculously before their eyes. All of the difficulties that […]
Depression is a condition characterized by low mood, sadness, anhedonia (decreased pleasure/interest), fatigue, changes in weight/appetite, irritability, sleep disturbance, agitation, impaired concentration, indecision, lack of motivation, pessimism/hopelessness, and suicidal thinking. Over-sensitivity to criticism/rejection and social withdrawal is not uncommon. It is often accompanied by feelings of excessive worthless/guilt, feelings of loneliness or lack of belongingness, […]
According to Lazarus and Folkman (1984), there are two categories of stress management techniques. The first is called problem-focused coping. Problem-focused coping targets the causes of stress in practical ways and reduces or eliminates them directly. Emotion-focused coping involves trying to reduce the negative emotional responses associated with stress such as embarrassment, fear, anxiety, […]
Q: How much is too much drinking?
Excessive alcohol use includes heavy drinking and binge drinking.
According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA), “at risk” or “heavy” drinking is defined as more than 4 drinks/day or more than 14 drinks/week for men, AND more than 3 drinks/day or more than 7 drinks/week […]